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Braving the Solo Tide: A Survivor's Guide to Single Life

  • andrewwilliamjacks
  • Jun 28, 2023
  • 3 min read

Two years ago, I dared to do the unthinkable: I shattered the comforting routine of my four-year relationship to step into the uncertain, windy path of singlehood in my late 30s.The verdict? Many deemed me certifiable, others a reckless romantic, given that my ex seemed the epitome of perfection. Yet, I was all in, gambling my heart in the unpredictable game of love, dreaming of a jackpot. The payoff? A heaping portion of singledom in my late 30s.

What unfolded was an exhilarating ride - a whirlwind blend of self-destruction, soul-searching, and a hearty dash of madness.

Now, armed with a wild two-year love odyssey under my belt, I've morphed into a sage of the heart. Presenting my ten commandments to steer through the turbulent seas of single life, and perhaps, with Lady Luck on your side, find 'the one':

  1. Don't Break A Sweat: Banish your inner Bridget Jones. The digital age of romance has got you covered, your soulmate could be just a swipe away. My buddy racked up 800 matches in a week, for Pete's sake! I'm not advocating settling, far from it. Know that you possess the power to call time on your single escapades whenever you choose. For us mere mortals detached from Hollywood clichés, the choices are still abundant.

  2. Reject Overthinking: As the savvy Robert Herjavec stated, ‘Thinking too much leads to paralysis by analysis.’ Overthinking is the grim reaper of fun, and we're here to live, aren't we?

  3. Chill Out: This isn't Broadway or Wall Street. It's life, in all its glory. Embrace it! Project positivity and watch as people magnetically pull towards you. Tension repels, relaxation attracts - it's born from being at ease with yourself and finding diversions for your anxieties.

  4. Brace for the Unexpected: In the battlefield of love, all is fair! Strap in for the ride and anticipate a few 'Pete Tong' moments. Dating is as capricious as they come, don't count your chickens until trust solidifies into a fortress.

  5. Go Light on the Liquor: Nobody admires a staggering drunk. Keep pace, opt out of rounds, request a half, or even better, a mocktail. Remember, merriment doesn't need to escort morning regrets or cringe-worthy drunk selfies.

  6. Dare to Risk: Take the plunge, ask that friend out. Keep it breezy, laugh it off if it takes an awkward turn. They could be your hidden jackpot!

  7. Laugh. A Lot: If your day lacks laughter, you're not truly living. Life's an unpredictable ride; a sense of humor is your trusty compass.

  8. Socialize, Radiate Positivity: Even though I can rival a grumpy cat in judgement, I strive to emit positivity. People are moths to the flame of good energy – light the path!

  9. Stay Active: Hit the gym, engage in sports, pursue those endorphins. It's a brilliant antidote to anxiety, and let's face it, toned muscles never got any complaints!

  10. Expand Your Horizons: Immerse yourself in the love of life, not just people. Read, travel, explore. You'll evolve into a captivating conversationalist and a multi-dimensional persona.

And the bonus commandment: Patience is a Virtue. Life isn't a sprint; everyone's journey is bespoke. Relish the world's experiences; they're the true treasure chest! So there you have it, my recipe for not just surviving, but dancing through the rain in your single life. Remember, perfection is a myth; everyone is beautifully flawed. Find humor in the chaos, savor the wild ride, and who knows? You might just unearth a gold mine in this wild, unpredictable treasure hunt of love. Don't be a spectator in your own life. Jump in, make waves, and most importantly, enjoy the journey. After all, whether we’re single, committed, or somewhere in between, we’re all just trying to figure out this crazy, wonderful thing called life. Happy hunting!

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